I find myself treating differently people who commit the same sins. For one group of sinners I have this sense of compassion and mercy. I genuinely feel bad for them. I have been there. For the other group, who most often commit the same initial sin, I feel frustrations, doubts, incredulity and a few other emotions. I also still feel compassion and mercy but this compassion and mercy is different.
The two groups of sinners, I have been in both at various time, are divided not by the particular sin but by their actions around the sin. I will use sexual sin as the context, but it is certainly not the only context, for my example. In the first group a couple comes to me and is saddened and concerned because they have crossed the lines into sexual sin. They generally have an element of concern, sorrow, and real desire to recapture a place of discipline and spiritual wellness. My heart is proud of these individuals, not because of their sin – obviously, but because of their sense of conviction and wanting to be restored to Christ. They have obviously responded to the conviction of the Holy Spirit. I have compassion and mercy for them.
The next type of sinner comes to me, usually in a different context, and through discussion I find out that they are living together or planning on living together (again this is an example). They come with an element of sorrow, sometimes, but mostly with a ready explanation: “We just felt stuck financially and so it made more sense to share an apartment.” There is a clear choice to enter into a relationship of sinfulness and to “go in the direction” of sin. I have compassion and mercy for them.
Let me describe this in a different way. The Bible speaks of the Word being a light to our path. So thinking in terms of walking along a path of right living (righteousness) I will describe what I am experiencing. The first individuals are walking along the path and for a variety of reasons have stumbled, stepped, transgressed off the path. They find themselves on the side in the ditch or swamp. They recognize their plight and work to get back on the path and moving in the right direction. Many times this includes getting counsel from other believers and for some includes entering into accountability type relationships.
The second individuals are walking along the path and for a variety of reasons have stumbled, stepped, transgressed off the path. They find themselves on the side in the ditch or swamp. They recognize their plight, but here they make a conscious choice. They determine in their heart and mind that they have “reasons” for being off the path. And rather than work their way back onto the path they continue walking in the ditch or swimming in the swamp. Eventually they find themselves soiled spiritually in a different way than just through the initial sin. Their hearts become more and more cold and hardened and their spiritual lives less and less about love for the Lord and more about lesser things. As a pastor I find it difficult to not have a deeper concern for the spiritual future of these individuals. It saddens me for them.
Eugene Peterson once described discipleship as “a long obedience in the same direction.” Actually, that is a title of one of his books. It is a brilliant description of this walk we are on called discipleship. It is interesting how a stumble in long obedience is less consequential than a direction change. I am not saying the stumble or short transgression doesn’t matter, but it does seem to have a less damaging consequence than going off the path completely and heading in a new direction – can I say, “duh?”
I remember when I was younger someone quoted a verse to me that has stuck with me. It was out of the New American Standard version of the Bible; make no provision for the flesh in regard to its lusts. The passage is from Romans 13. I will put it into context:
For this, "YOU SHALL NOT COMMIT ADULTERY, YOU SHALL NOT MURDER, YOU SHALL NOT STEAL, YOU SHALL NOT COVET," (and if there is any other commandment, it is summed up in this saying,) "YOU SHALL LOVE YOUR NEIGHBOR AS YOURSELF." Love does no wrong to a neighbor; therefore love is the fulfillment of the law. Do this, knowing the time, that it is already the hour for you to awaken from sleep; for now salvation is nearer to us than when we believed. The night is almost gone, and the day is near Therefore let us lay aside the deeds of darkness and put on the armor of light. Let us behave properly as in the day, not in carousing and drunkenness, not in sexual promiscuity and sensuality, not in strife and jealousy. But put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make no provision for the flesh
in regard to its lusts.
The man who quoted this verse to me explained to me about not making plans and provisions for my sin: “If you know you are going to drink at the party don’t go.” “If you are going to be tempted being alone with your girlfriend plan on not being alone with her.” These teachings made sense to me. Through the years this has helped me. To be honest it hasn’t always stopped me, but more often than not it does. When I find myself making plans for sin it is easier to stop at that stage than later. When I find myself arranging opportunities for my continued sinfulness, making provision, I know I am in trouble in a different way. Where have you made provision for sin, or continued sin?
I encourage all of us to be more ruthless with our desire to stay on the path or return to the path. Let’s plan on making no plans for our own sinfulness. Here is a prayer:
Father, help us all to lay aside the deeds of darkness and to put on the armor of lights. Help us to live the way you would want us to live. Wearing your Son and our Lord Jesus Christ like a garment, help us to cut off and destroy our plans and provisions for our sin. We want to live with our lives in full view of everyone – with nothing to hide! Thank you Father for your Spirit who strengthens us and equips us to live for you! Amen”
Your partner in the gospel,
Pastor Paul
Pastor Paul
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